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<\/a><\/p>\n\u00a9 Sosialurin<\/p>\n
Hann tosar opi\u00f0 og fr\u00e1 hjartanum. Eingin spurningur tykist koma \u00f3vart \u00e1 hann, og hann hevur t\u00fd\u00f0iliga hugsa\u00f0 n\u00f3gv um s\u00edna st\u00f8\u00f0u sum p\u00e1pi at einum samkyndum ungum manni.
\n– Vit h\u00f8vdu nokk varhuga av t\u00ed. H\u00f8gni hev\u00f0i n\u00f3gv vinf\u00f3lk – b\u00e6\u00f0i dreingir og gentur – men t\u00e1 tey byrja\u00f0u at fjasast vi\u00f0 hitt kyni\u00f0 \u00ed 6. og 7. flokki, hendi ongant\u00ed\u00f0 naka\u00f0 hj\u00e1 H\u00f8gna.
\n– Hann fekk eisini fleiri spurningar, um hann n\u00fa mundi hava funni\u00f0 s\u00e6r eina fitta unnustu. Men hann dugdi alt\u00ed\u00f0 v\u00e6l at svara uttanum, so tey g\u00f3vust at spyrja.
\nEvald minnist t\u00f3, at hann tosa\u00f0i vi\u00f0 konuna um ta\u00f0, me\u00f0an H\u00f8gni framvegis var heilt ungur.
\n– Hann var alt\u00ed\u00f0 \u00f8\u00f0rv\u00edsi enn hini b\u00f8rnini onkursvegna. So vit tosa\u00f0u um, at ta\u00f0 kanska kundi vera ein m\u00f8guleiki, at honum als ikki d\u00e1mdi gentur. Men ta\u00f0 kundi j\u00fa sj\u00e1lvandi eisini bara vera ta\u00f0, at hann ikki hev\u00f0i funni\u00f0 r\u00f8ttu gentuna enn.<\/p>\n
Macho-fjas<\/strong> F\u00f8royar ikki homofobiskar<\/strong> Hv\u00f8r er ors\u00f8kin?<\/strong> Tveir versynir<\/strong>
\nEvald minnist v\u00e6l l\u00f8tuna, t\u00e1 i\u00f0 sonurin kom at siga honum, at hann var samkyndur. H\u00f8gni var t\u00e1 bert 16 \u00e1ra gamal, og hann tosa\u00f0i fyrst vi\u00f0 mammu s\u00edna og kom s\u00ed\u00f0ani til Evald.
\n– Ta\u00f0 var helst torf\u00f8rt hj\u00e1 honum at fortelja ta\u00f0. Og eg haldi, at hann nokk var eitt sindur nerv\u00f8sur. Men hann dugdi sera v\u00e6l at grei\u00f0a fr\u00e1 s\u00edni st\u00f8\u00f0u, og eg var\u00f0 hv\u00f8rki skelka\u00f0ur ella illur. Hann er sum hann er, og hann er sonur m\u00edn uttan mun til hvat.
\nEvald grei\u00f0ir fr\u00e1, at n\u00f3gv hava spurt H\u00f8gna, hvussu p\u00e1pin reagera\u00f0i.
\n– Ta\u00f0 er eingin, sum spyr, hvussu mamman reagera\u00f0i. Ta\u00f0 er nokk okkurt macho-fjas, sum ger, at f\u00f3lk hugsa n\u00f3gv meiri um p\u00e1pan og hansara reakti\u00f3n, t\u00e1 sonurin er samkyndur. Men eg havi ongant\u00ed\u00f0 havt nakran trupulleika vi\u00f0 t\u00ed. Heldur ikki \u00ed t\u00ed l\u00f8tuni, t\u00e1 i\u00f0 hann seg\u00f0i m\u00e6r ta\u00f0, sl\u00e6r Evald fast.
\nHann v\u00edsir \u00e1, at seksualiteturin j\u00fa er ein so sera l\u00edtil partur av t\u00ed, sum H\u00f8gni er. Hann er so \u00f3tr\u00faliga n\u00f3gv anna\u00f0 enn bara samkyndur. Hann hevur n\u00f3gvar g\u00f3\u00f0ar eginleikar og g\u00f3\u00f0 evni innan b\u00e6\u00f0i \u00edtr\u00f3tt, arbei\u00f0i og sk\u00fala.
\n– Tey samkyndu eru j\u00fast sum \u00f8ll onnur. Tey hava bara eitt l\u00edti\u00f0 fr\u00e1vik, og man sigur j\u00fa, at ta\u00f0 eru eini 5-10 prosent av f\u00f3lkinum, sum eru samkynd. So ta\u00f0 er heldur ikki so sj\u00e1ldsamt, sum vit ofta halda.
\nEvald vi\u00f0gongur t\u00f3, at hann \u00ed fyrstuni hugsa\u00f0i um, hv\u00f8rt H\u00f8gni bara mundi vera ivandi, og um ta\u00f0 kanska mundi vera ta\u00f0, at hann ikki hev\u00f0i m\u00f8tt r\u00f8ttu gentuni enn. Men H\u00f8gni var sera avgj\u00f8rdur.
\n– H\u00f8gni er solei\u00f0is, at um hann tekur eina avger\u00f0, so er ta\u00f0 t\u00ed, at hann veruliga meinar ta\u00f0. Hann er umhugsin og skilag\u00f3\u00f0ur, og eg visti eisini vi\u00f0 m\u00e6r sj\u00e1lvum, at hetta ikki var naka\u00f0, hann knappliga hev\u00f0i funni\u00f0 upp\u00e1.
\n– B\u00e6\u00f0i eg og mamman h\u00f8vdu varhugan av, at hetta f\u00f3r at koma. Ta\u00f0 kann t\u00ed vera, at H\u00f8gni, antin tilvita\u00f0 ella \u00f3tilvita\u00f0, hevur sent okkum tekin um ta\u00f0, uttan t\u00f3 beinlei\u00f0is at siga naka\u00f0.
\nFyrsta reakti\u00f3nin hj\u00e1 Evaldi var, at hann gj\u00f8rdist st\u00farin um framt\u00ed\u00f0ina hj\u00e1 H\u00f8gna.
\n– Spurningarnir m\u00f3lu \u00ed h\u00f8vdinum, og eg hugsa\u00f0i um, hvussu l\u00edvi\u00f0 mundi fara at laga seg fyri hann. Eg hev\u00f0i j\u00fa hoyrt so n\u00f3gv um, at samkynd f\u00f3lk r\u00fdma av landinum, og at F\u00f8royar ikki eru eitt gott land hj\u00e1 samkyndum at b\u00fagva \u00ed. Og so minnist eg alt roki\u00f0 sum var um \u00a7 266b. So m\u00ednir allarfyrstu tankar sn\u00fa\u00f0u seg um framt\u00ed\u00f0ar\u00fatlitini hj\u00e1 H\u00f8gna.<\/p>\n
\nEvald fann t\u00f3 skj\u00f3tt \u00fatav, at \u00f3tti hansara var \u00f3grunda\u00f0ur.
\n– Eg seg\u00f0i vi\u00f0 H\u00f8gna, at hann n\u00fa f\u00f3r at finna \u00fatav, hv\u00f8rjir hansara veruligu vinir v\u00f3ru. Og ta\u00f0 v\u00edsti seg, at ikki ein tann einasti vinur, familjulimur ella nakar annar vendi honum ella okkum baki\u00f0.
\nEvald var somulei\u00f0is eitt sindur ivasamur um, hvussu m\u00f3tt\u00f8kan av t\u00ed\u00f0indunum f\u00f3r at vera \u00ed samkomuni, har H\u00f8gni gongur. Ta\u00f0 hava j\u00fa veri\u00f0 n\u00f8kur, sum vi\u00f0 B\u00edbliuni \u00ed hond hava ni\u00f0urgj\u00f8rt tey samkyndu. Men eisini har var allur ivi gj\u00f8rdur til skammar.
\n– Ungf\u00f3lk eru b\u00e6\u00f0i opin og tolerant, og tey g\u00f3\u00f0taka hann, j\u00fast sum hann er. Men eg tr\u00fagvi eisini, at ta\u00f0 hevur hj\u00e1lpt v\u00e6l, at H\u00f8gni hevur veri\u00f0 so opin, sum hann hevur veri\u00f0. T\u00e1 alt er frammi \u00ed lj\u00f3sinum, er ta\u00f0 n\u00f3gv l\u00e6ttari at fyrihalda seg til.
\nHann grei\u00f0ir fr\u00e1, at H\u00f8gni leingi ba\u00f0 um, at hetta oki\u00f0 skuldi ver\u00f0a tiki\u00f0 fr\u00e1 honum. Men t\u00e1 st\u00f8\u00f0an bleiv vi\u00f0 at vera ta\u00f0 sama, hugsa\u00f0i hann vi\u00f0 s\u00e6r, at V\u00e1rharra mundi hava tala\u00f0. Av t\u00ed, at einki broyttist, m\u00e1tti svari\u00f0 fr\u00e1 V\u00e1rharra vera, at H\u00f8gni er j\u00fast, sum hann skal vera.
\nEvald grei\u00f0ir fr\u00e1, at t\u00e1 hann var ungur, var hetta evni\u00f0 p\u00farasta tabu, og hann visti einki um samkynd f\u00f3lk.
\n– At koma til Havnar \u00far Su\u00f0uroynni og hitta R\u00f3lant Samuelsen var eitt upplivilsi, t\u00ed \u00ed Su\u00f0uroynni v\u00f3ru eingi f\u00f3lk, sum v\u00f3ru opin um, at tey v\u00f3ru samkynd. Tey flestu mundu helst undirtrykkja ta\u00f0 – ella r\u00fdmdu tey av landinum.
\n– Men ta\u00f0, at fleiri samkyndir f\u00f8royingar \u00ed seinastuni hava tra\u00f0ka\u00f0 alment fram og sta\u00f0i\u00f0 vi\u00f0 ta\u00f0, tey eru, hevur broytt n\u00f3gv \u00ed F\u00f8royum. Og f\u00f8royingar eru als ikki so homofobiskir, sum or\u00f0i\u00f0 vil vera vi\u00f0. Alt ta\u00f0 yngra \u00e6ttarli\u00f0i\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0tekur ta\u00f0 uttan at blunka.
\n– S\u00ed\u00f0ani H\u00f8gni steig fram sum samkyndur, er ta\u00f0 meiri enn so komi\u00f0 fyri, at onnur foreldur hava ringt til okkara og spurt um r\u00e1\u00f0, t\u00ed tey hava illgruna um, at barn teirra er samkynt. T\u00e1 hava vit sagt, at ta\u00f0 bara er eitt at gera, og ta\u00f0 er at g\u00f3\u00f0taka barni\u00f0, sum ta\u00f0 er.<\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n
\n– F\u00f3lk kjakast um, hv\u00f8rt ta\u00f0 er arvur, umhv\u00f8rvi ella um ta\u00f0 kanska er ein m\u00f3tadilla, t\u00e1 f\u00f3lk eru samkynd. Men eg eri sannf\u00f8rdur um, at H\u00f8gni er f\u00f8ddur solei\u00f0is. Hann hevur alt\u00ed\u00f0 veri\u00f0 \u00f8\u00f0rv\u00edsi. Hann hevur veri\u00f0 stillf\u00f8rur, l\u00edtill\u00e1tin og sera umhugsin. Hann hevur varnast, t\u00e1 mamman hevur veri\u00f0 til fris\u00f8r – eisini t\u00e1 eg als ikki havi g\u00e1a\u00f0 um ta\u00f0 – sigur Evald sm\u00edlandi og heldur fram – H\u00f8gni hevur alt\u00ed\u00f0 sta\u00f0i\u00f0 vi\u00f0 s\u00edtt, og b\u00e6\u00f0i l\u00e6rarar og \u00edtr\u00f3ttarvenjarar hava alt\u00ed\u00f0 vita\u00f0, j\u00fast hvar teir h\u00f8vdu H\u00f8gna.
\nEvald grei\u00f0ir fr\u00e1, at onkur onkunt\u00ed\u00f0 hevur r\u00f3\u00f0 framundir, at H\u00f8gni kanska ikki \u00e1tti at sloppi\u00f0 at veri\u00f0 so stillf\u00f8rur, sum hann alt\u00ed\u00f0 hevur veri\u00f0. Um hann var\u00f0 noyddur at rokast meiri, so kanska hann ikki hev\u00f0i veri\u00f0 samkyndur \u00ed dag. Men ta\u00f0 heldur Evald vera fjas.
\n– Vit hava eina d\u00f3ttur, sum er uppdrigin \u00e1 j\u00fast sama h\u00e1tt sum H\u00f8gni. H\u00f3ast ta\u00f0, so hevur hon alt\u00ed\u00f0 veri\u00f0 beint \u00f8vugt av honum; b\u00e6\u00f0i meiri rokalig og meiri vill \u00ed t\u00ed. Men hon er ikki vor\u00f0in samkynd, h\u00f3ast hon hevur sm\u00ed\u00f0a\u00f0 \u00edsta\u00f0in fyri at sp\u00e6la gentusp\u00f8l. Ta\u00f0 hevur einki vi\u00f0 uppaling at gera, t\u00ed lyndi\u00f0 \u00ed f\u00f3lki er so ymiskt, og tey eru f\u00f8dd, sum tey eru.<\/p>\n
\nEvald sigur, at tey onkunt\u00ed\u00f0 plaga at flenna at, at tey fara at f\u00e1a tveir versynir heldur enn eina verd\u00f3ttur og ein verson.
\n– H\u00f8gni hevur enn ikki presentera\u00f0 nakran sjeik her heima, men eg havi gj\u00f8rt m\u00e6r greitt, at tann dagurin fer at koma. Og ta\u00f0 havi eg ta\u00f0 f\u00ednt vi\u00f0s, sigur Evald.
\n– Heima eru vit p\u00fara opin um ta\u00f0, og vit kunnu gott skemta vi\u00f0 t\u00ed og gera vittigheitir. Men eg merki v\u00e6l, at eg eri skj\u00f3tur upp \u00e1 barrikadurnar, um eg eri \u00fati, og f\u00f3lk skemta vi\u00f0 teimum samkyndu.
\n– Ta\u00f0 koma onkunt\u00ed\u00f0 onkrar plattar vittigheitir, og ta\u00f0 leggi eg ikki so n\u00f3gv \u00ed, men t\u00e1 eg merki, at ta\u00f0 liggur ein \u00e1v\u00edsur \u00e1lvari handan skemti\u00f0, t\u00e1 reageri eg \u00e1 ein heilt annan h\u00e1tt, enn eg gj\u00f8rdi fyrr, vi\u00f0gongur Evald.
\nHann hugsar seg um eina l\u00f8tu og sigur so, at h\u00f3ast tey skemta vi\u00f0, at hann fer at f\u00e1a tveir versynir og onga verd\u00f3ttir, so hevur hann eisini gj\u00f8rt s\u00e6r \u00e1lvarsamar tankar um ta\u00f0.
\n– T\u00e1 man hugsar um eitt br\u00fa\u00f0arpar, so eru ta\u00f0 ein kvinna og ein ma\u00f0ur, sum ganga upp eftir kirkjug\u00f3lvinum. D\u00f3ttir m\u00edn skal giftast skj\u00f3tt, og eg veit, at H\u00f8gni ikki kann gera sama t\u00farin efir kirkjug\u00f3lvinum, sum st\u00f8\u00f0an er \u00ed dag.
\n– Eg havi eisini veri\u00f0 keddur um, at hann ikki fer at f\u00e1a b\u00f8rn. Hj\u00e1 kvinnunum er ta\u00f0 l\u00e6ttari, men tveir menn hava ey\u00f0s\u00e6\u00f0 n\u00f3gv verri m\u00f8guleika at f\u00e1a b\u00f8rn. Men n\u00fa eri eg farin at venda t\u00ed vi\u00f0 og hugsa: \u201dHv\u00ed skal hann ikki kunna f\u00e1a b\u00f8rn?\u00ab.
\n– Ta\u00f0 eru j\u00fa b\u00e6\u00f0i einligar mammur og einligir p\u00e1par, og sum eg dugi at s\u00edggja, so er ta\u00f0 ikki ney\u00f0turviliga betri at hava tvey foreldur heldur enn eitt. Eg v\u00e6nti, at hetta fer at koma \u00ed r\u00e6ttlag. B\u00e6\u00f0i, at tey samkyndu fara at kunna gifta seg \u00ed kirkjuni, og at tey fara at kunna \u00e6ttlei\u00f0a. Enn eru n\u00f8kur religi\u00f8s fragment, sum eru \u00edm\u00f3ti, men tey allarflestu g\u00f3\u00f0taka ta\u00f0. Og ungd\u00f3murin er \u00f3tr\u00faliga tollyntur. So ta\u00f0 er helst bara ein spurningur um t\u00ed\u00f0, heldur Evald, sum t\u00ed er sannf\u00f8rdur um, at framt\u00ed\u00f0ar\u00fatlitini hj\u00e1 soninum s\u00edggja bj\u00f8rt \u00fat. Eisini um hann velur at b\u00fagva \u00ed F\u00f8royum alt l\u00edvi\u00f0.<\/p>\nFakta
\nNavn: Evald Rasmussen
\nAldur: 54 \u00e1r
\nGiftur Jean Minn\u00e9
\nB\u00fasta\u00f0ur: Hoyv\u00edk
\nB\u00f8rn: Vanja 21 \u00e1r og H\u00f8gni, sum ver\u00f0ur 19 \u00ed n\u00e6stum
\nStarv: L\u00e6rari \u00ed Eystursk\u00falanum<\/h5>\n