{"id":1569,"date":"2013-10-20T22:25:58","date_gmt":"2013-10-20T21:25:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lgbt.fo\/lgbt-hetjur-2\/hvussu-virdir-tu-ein-transkyndan\/"},"modified":"2025-12-30T17:30:50","modified_gmt":"2025-12-30T17:30:50","slug":"hvussu-virdir-tu-ein-transkyndan","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/lgbt.fo\/en\/hvussu-virdir-tu-ein-transkyndan\/","title":{"rendered":"Hvussu vir\u00f0ir t\u00fa ein tv\u00f8rkyndan?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/jay.lxn.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/IMG_8454.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-2433\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lgbt.fo\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/IMG_8454.jpg?resize=430%2C287&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"IMG_8454\" width=\"430\" height=\"287\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Um t\u00fa n\u00fdliga hevur fr\u00e6tt um ella hitt ein tv\u00f8rkyndan \u00ed t\u00ednum umhv\u00f8rvi, skilir t\u00fa kanska ikki samleikan hj\u00e1 vi\u00f0komandi, og t\u00fa kanst ivast \u00ed, hvussu t\u00fa bert teg at vi\u00f0 ikki at s\u00e6ra hann ella hana. Ein tv\u00f8rkyndur pers\u00f3nur er ein, i\u00f0 ikki kennir seg sum ta\u00f0 kyni\u00f0, i\u00f0 vi\u00f0komandi fekk tilskriva\u00f0 sum n\u00fdf\u00f8\u00f0ingur. Tv\u00f8rkynd f\u00f3lk finnast um allan heimin og \u00ed \u00f8llum mentanum. Fyri hesi er ikki alt\u00ed\u00f0 l\u00e6tt at grei\u00f0a fr\u00e1 s\u00ednum umst\u00f8\u00f0um vi\u00f0v\u00edkjandi kyni \u00ed n\u00fat\u00ed\u00f0arsamfelagnum. Her eru 9 lei\u00f0ireglur, i\u00f0 kunnu hj\u00e1lpa t\u00e6r at skilja og vir\u00f0a onkran, i\u00f0 ikki samsvarar vi\u00f0 t\u00edna fatan av kyni, ella ikki l\u00e6ttliga kann b\u00f3lkast sum \u201ckallkyn\u201d ella \u201ckvennkyn\u201d.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>S\u00fdn vir\u00f0ing fyri kynsliga samleikanum.<\/strong> Hugsa um hann\/hana sum ta\u00f0 kyni\u00f0, vi\u00f0komandi kallar seg sj\u00e1lvan, vi\u00f0 valda fornavninum og pers\u00f3nsfornavninum, fr\u00e1 n\u00fa av, \u00f3ans\u00e6\u00f0 hvussu vi\u00f0komandi s\u00e6r \u00fat. (Um ikki vi\u00f0komandi ikki er sprottin enn, ella ynskir ta\u00f0 \u00f8\u00f0rv\u00edsi. Spyr, um t\u00fa ivast, um ta\u00f0 onkunt\u00ed\u00f0 ikki er h\u00f3skandi).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Ansa eftir t\u00e1t\u00ed\u00f0.<\/strong> T\u00e1 t\u00fa tosar um fort\u00ed\u00f0ina, er best ikki at siga t.d. \u201ct\u00e1 t\u00fa vart hitt kyni\u00f0\u201d ella \u201cf\u00f8dd\/ur sum ma\u00f0ur\/kvinna\u201d . Hetta av t\u00ed at n\u00f3gv tv\u00f8rkynd kenna, at tey alt\u00ed\u00f0 hava veri\u00f0 ta\u00f0 kyni\u00f0, tey eru sprottin sum, men noyddust at goyma ta\u00f0 av onkrari ors\u00f8k. Spyr tann tv\u00f8rkynda hvussu vi\u00f0komandi ynskir at ver\u00f0a umr\u00f8ddur. Ein loysn er ikki at nevna kyn, t\u00e1 tosa\u00f0 ver\u00f0ur um fort\u00ed\u00f0ina, t.d. vi\u00f0 at siga \u201c\u00ed fj\u00f8r\u201d, \u201ct\u00e1 t\u00fa vart barn\u201d osfr. Um kynsskifti\u00f0 skal umr\u00f8\u00f0ast, kanst t\u00fa siga t.d. \u201c\u00e1\u00f0renn t\u00fa vart sprottin<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>N\u00fdt m\u00e1l, i\u00f0 h\u00f3skar til kyni\u00f0.<\/strong> Spyr hv\u00f8rji pers\u00f3nsforn\u00f8vn og bendingar tann tv\u00f8rkyndi ynskir skulu ver\u00f0a n\u00fdtt um hann\/hana, og syrg so fyri at vir\u00f0a hetta. Til d\u00f8mis kann ein, i\u00f0 s\u00e6r seg sj\u00e1lva sum kvinnu, ynskja at t\u00fa sigur \u201chon\u201d, \u201chenni\u201d, \u201cfitt\u201d, \u201cstuttlig\u201d, \u201ckedd\u201d osfr. Somulei\u00f0is kann ein, i\u00f0 s\u00e6r seg sj\u00e1lvan sum mann, ynskja h\u00f3skandi m\u00e1lbr\u00fak: \u201chann\u201d, \u201chonum\u201d, \u201cfittur\u201d osfr. Og n\u00fdt ta\u00f0 navni\u00f0 tey ynskja! Fyri at skera ta\u00f0 \u00fat \u00ed papp, kemur eitt d\u00f8mi her: Vinma\u00f0ur t\u00edn Janus er j\u00fast sprottin sum tv\u00f8rkyndur, og ynskir n\u00fa at ver\u00f0a kalla\u00f0ur Maria. Fr\u00e1 n\u00fa av sigur t\u00fa ikki: \u201cHetta er vinma\u00f0ur m\u00edn Janus, eg havi kent hann s\u00ed\u00f0an f\u00f3lkask\u00falan.\u201d \u00cd sta\u00f0in sigur t\u00fa: \u201cHetta er vinkona m\u00edn Maria, eg havi kent hana s\u00ed\u00f0an f\u00f3lkask\u00falan.\u201d Um ta\u00f0 kennist l\u00f8gi\u00f0, og ta\u00f0 ger ta\u00f0 allarhelst \u00ed fyrstani, m\u00e1st t\u00fa goyma ta\u00f0 til eina a\u00f0ra fer\u00f0, t\u00e1 t\u00fa og Maria f\u00e1a tosa \u00ed fri\u00f0. Um t\u00fa vilt vir\u00f0a Mariu, m\u00e1st t\u00fa tosa vi\u00f0 hana, sum tann hon er \u00ed dag. Hon er enn tann sami pers\u00f3nurin, t\u00fa kennir hana bara enn betri \u00ed dag.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Ikki vera bangin fyri at spyrja.<\/strong> Summi, men ikki \u00f8ll, tv\u00f8rkynd svara fegin spurningum vi\u00f0v\u00edkjandi kyni og samleika. T\u00f3 er ta\u00f0 eisini t\u00edn egna \u00e1byrgd at kunna teg sj\u00e1lva\/n. Spurningar um kynsg\u00f8gn og skur\u00f0vi\u00f0ger\u00f0ir eru sj\u00e1ldan h\u00f3skandi. Vit spyrja ikki vanliga f\u00f3lk um teirra kynsg\u00f8gn!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Minst til at verja privatl\u00edvi\u00f0 hj\u00e1 t\u00ed tv\u00f8rkynda. <\/strong>At spretta sum tv\u00f8rkyndur er ein sera trupul avger\u00f0. At avd\u00faka uppl\u00fdsingar um kyn, samleika og navn uttan loyvi er \u00e1litsbrot. Vi\u00f0komandi fortelur ta\u00f0, hann\/hon hevur hug til, fyri teimum hann\/hon hevur hug til, t\u00e1 hann\/hon er til rei\u00f0ar. Hetta ger seg galdandi b\u00e6\u00f0i fyri tey sum hava skift samleika, og fyri tey sum ikki eru sprottin enn.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Ikki ganga \u00fat fr\u00e1, at t\u00fa veist hvat tann tv\u00f8rkyndi fer \u00edgj\u00f8gnum. <\/strong>Kynsligur samleiki ger seg galdandi \u00e1 n\u00f3gvar ymsar m\u00e1tar. Ta\u00f0, at vera \u201cfanga\u00f0\/ur \u00ed einum mann-\/konuf\u00f3lkakroppi\u201d, at tv\u00f8rkyndar kvinnur eru yvirfemininar og tv\u00f8rkyndir menn yvirmaskulinir ella at \u00f8ll tv\u00f8rkynd f\u00e1a s\u00e6r hormon-\/skur\u00f0vi\u00f0ger\u00f0 eru allar stereotypur. Hetta vil vera satt fyri summi, men ikki onnur. Lurta vi\u00f0 opnum sinni eftir, hvat pers\u00f3nurin fortelur um s\u00edna egnu uppliving. Ikki ganga \u00fat fr\u00e1, at hann\/hon skiftir kyn orsaka\u00f0 av farnum traumatiskum hendingum ella fyri at r\u00fdma \u00far s\u00ednum kroppi.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/jay.lxn.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/1600-Genderbread-Person.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-2631\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lgbt.fo\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/1600-Genderbread-Person.jpg?resize=430%2C278&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"1600-Genderbread-Person\" width=\"430\" height=\"278\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Minst til, at munur er \u00e1 kynsligum samleika og kynsligari sannf\u00f8ring.<\/strong> Ikki ganga \u00fat fr\u00e1, at t\u00fa veist hv\u00f8rja kynsliga sannf\u00f8ring (orientering) tv\u00f8rkyndi pers\u00f3nurin hevur. Tv\u00f8rkynd kunnu vera hinskynd, samkynd, tv\u00edkynd ella okkurt heilt fj\u00f3r\u00f0a. Um pers\u00f3nurin letur teg vita um s\u00edna kynsligu sannf\u00f8ring, br\u00faka so ta\u00f0 heiti\u00f0 hann\/hon br\u00fakar.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Far vi\u00f0 t\u00ed tv\u00f8rkynda, sum t\u00fa alt\u00ed\u00f0 hevur gj\u00f8rt.<\/strong> Ta\u00f0 er ikki vist at tv\u00f8rkyndir pers\u00f3nurin ynskir nakra servi\u00f0ger\u00f0. Ger ikki ov n\u00f3gv av, aftan\u00e1 at t\u00fa hevur spurt um ta\u00f0 ney\u00f0uga. Tv\u00f8rkynd hava n\u00f8kulunda somu pers\u00f3nsmensku sum \u00e1\u00f0renn tey sprottu. Far vi\u00f0 teimum sum vi\u00f0 \u00f8llum \u00f8\u00f0rum menniskjum.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Tey, i\u00f0 n\u00fa skifta til eitt anna\u00f0 kyn enn ta\u00f0, tey fingu tilskriva\u00f0 sum n\u00fdf\u00f8\u00f0ingar, eru farin undir eina st\u00f3ra l\u00edvsbroyting. <\/strong>At vera skiljandi, tolin og opin fyri at tosa um broytingarnar er besta hj\u00e1lpin \u00ed eini truplari og kenslubornari t\u00ed\u00f0. Best er at spyrja opnar spurningar, i\u00f0 loyva pers\u00f3ninum at svara so n\u00f3gv ella l\u00edti\u00f0 sum hann\/hon ynskir. T.d.: \u201chvussu gongur?\u201d, \u201ct\u00fa s\u00e6rt strongd \u00fat, hug at tosa um ta\u00f0?\u201d, \u201ct\u00fa s\u00e6rt gla\u00f0ur \u00fat, er okkurt gott hent?\u201d, \u201chvussu kann eg hj\u00e1lpa t\u00e6r \u00edgj\u00f8gnum hesar broytingarnar?\u201d ella \u201ceg t\u00edmi v\u00e6l at lurta, um t\u00fa ynskir at tosa um okkurt\u201d.<\/li>\n<\/ul>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Um t\u00fa n\u00fdliga hevur fr\u00e6tt um ella hitt ein tv\u00f8rkyndan \u00ed t\u00ednum umhv\u00f8rvi, skilir t\u00fa kanska ikki samleikan hj\u00e1 vi\u00f0komandi, 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